I wish I could tell you that the assholes didn’t exist online. Of course, you would think that I’m crazy if I made that claim because–hey, you only need to spend a few minutes on Twitter and Facebook, and there you would be. Face to face with assholes.

They come in many shapes or forms. In fact, they can be one of your friends. They could be your relatives. They could be that dear aunt. You see, what makes a person an asshole is not because deep down inside this person is just a bad person. No, being an asshole has nothing to do with your essence. It has everything to do with the situation. It’s contextual.

You might get along well with me, but when our conversation’s topic changes I instantly turn into the biggest asshole in the world. Do you see how this works?

So if you’re looking for some safe space online that is completely asshole-free, I’m sorry to be the one to break this to you but no such place exists (ok secret tip; here you will find a sex date and no assholes). You probably are better off spending your time looking for unicorns.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about sex hookup sites. If you’re going to be using sex hookup sites, get ready for assholes. They come in all shapes and sizes. They come from all walks of life and they are going to give you a tough time.

The good news is by simply following these tips, you can go a long way in not only handling assholes but actually turning the situation around. Instead of getting thrown off track that you can no longer talk a good game with women, you don’t miss a step. You increase the likelihood that chicks will flock to you because you’re that one cool head that remained in the room.

Everybody else freaked out. Everybody else started getting all macho. But you remained calm, collected, and composed. You remained the only adult in the room. Chicks dig that.

So what do you need to do? First, remain calm. There will be assholes. Remain calm. They hate that shit, but remain calm. Second, never give them what they want. What they want is for you to get mad too. When they get mad, all their pain and suffering or whatever fucked up emotions are driving them are validated. Third, think of the big picture. If you’re able to focus on this, you increase the likelihood of success.